Wednesday, May 29, 2013
This post is there in many mind for the last two years, today i got the words to express. I noticed that there are different kind of conflict between me and Siddharth, they are more like grown ups. He has started pointing out my behavior, use of my words and more important my expression towards him.
I always had this feeling that he will be more independent after the age of nine, but never thought he will be independent in thoughts also.
How to accept rejection from a nine year old, where he does not want to do his homework, taking bath on regular time and so on.... I have always wished a relationship with my kids, based on love and trust. Sometimes i just hit the wall and my thoughts get blocked.
The session in Siddharth School on adolescence and growing up gave me beautiful insights. Why we are worrying so much about our kids, why we always feel that we need to give the answer to all their question in details, why cannot sometime we also just go with the flow. Kids at the age of nine and ten, when they are exploring their own independence are not always looking for all the answers from us, they are just looking for assurance that they are doing right. Why we always want to be their friends and forget our role as parents. We only wanted them to be independent and explore own their own, now when they are going to do the same. We are not able to handle rejection from them.
It is fine if a nine year old want to spend all the day in reading or in playing. You need to go with the flow. Yes we should worry when they hide something, when they dont share anything at all. What does independence means live the way you want to be. But yes never forget to remind them that you are always there for them if they need us. We are always there for them when they look back for assurance that they are doing right. So that when they turn adults, they tell u dont be behind me, come and walk with me.. i need you here my mom!!
|Papa i am soon going to be taller than you!!|
Thursday, May 16, 2013
Cleaning and Renovation in the house, gave us a chance to go through some of the art work done by Siddharth four years back. The visit to the art was worth, each work spoke many unsaid beautiful words of love, his skill. Below is the pics from some of the work!!
There is a complete art booklet, where a teddy bear goes on a world tour.
|Reet is more interested to take his bindi..|
|Riddle and Jokes Booklet in Hindi|
|I like the logis, Since He is non vegeterrin so his name is strong king and there is a super man|
|Crown for mume|
|The top of the invitation which is always made by kids|
|Rangoli On the another invitation, amazed to see his creativity at age 5|
|Siddharth loves his school because it has many blocks to make puzzle..|
Thursday, May 02, 2013
Today when one boy on the street was begging for money, he was saying something in a tune. I was getting irritated on his constant chase. Then suddenly i felt happy, when i saw Reet smiling on his tune. I was thinking that kids always live in present, he was singing and reet was smiling. Its we as adults attach so much to the present that it is no more a present and in the whole process we forget to enjoy the moment.
We condition our mind with knowledge from past and apply it everywhere. I was remembering that when we are with the friends, read a book, listen to the music or do some activity which we enjoy to do then we are in present. But why on other situations we get attached and invite pain or pleasure.
Our kids always live in present, we connect our stories to them and make their life tough sometime. We forget that one day they are going to fly their own way and make their own nest.
Till that time lets live in present and enjoy life with these little ones!! Amen!!
|Reet and Siddharth enjoying with bug...|
When you are quiet you can sense upcoming shifts in your life long before the actual shifts. Nothing is surprising, everything is welcome and consciousness keeps rising