Growing Up!!

This post is there in many mind for the last two years, today i got the words to express. I noticed that there are different kind of conflict between me and Siddharth, they are more like grown ups. He has started pointing out my behavior, use of my words and more important my expression towards him. 

I always had this feeling that he will be more independent after the age of nine, but never thought he will be independent in thoughts also.

How to accept rejection from a nine year old, where he does not want to do his homework, taking bath on regular time and so on.... I have always wished a relationship with my kids, based on love and trust. Sometimes i just hit the wall and my thoughts get blocked. 

The session in Siddharth School on adolescence and growing up gave me beautiful insights. Why we are worrying so much about our kids, why we always feel that we need to give the answer to all their question in details, why cannot sometime we also just go with the flow. Kids at the age of nine and ten, when they are exploring their own independence are not always looking for all the answers from us, they are just looking for assurance that they are doing right. Why we always want to be their friends and forget our role as parents. We only wanted them to be independent and explore own their own, now when they are going to do the same. We are not able to handle rejection from them. 

It is fine if a  nine year old want to spend all the day in reading or in playing. You need to go with the flow. Yes we should worry when they hide something, when they dont share anything at all. What does independence means live the way you want to be. But yes never forget to remind them that you are always there for them if they need us. We are always there for them when they look back for assurance that they are doing right. So that when they turn adults, they tell u dont be behind me, come and walk with me.. i need you here my mom!! 

Papa i am soon going to be taller than you!!

Art Galore 1

Cleaning and Renovation in the house, gave us a chance to go through some of the art work done by Siddharth four years back. The visit to the art was worth, each work spoke many unsaid beautiful words of love, his skill.  Below is the pics from some of the work!!

There is a complete art booklet, where a teddy bear goes on a world tour. 

Reet is more interested to take his bindi..

Riddle and Jokes Booklet in Hindi

Nice umbrella

I like the logis, Since He is non vegeterrin so his name is strong king and there is a super man

Crown for mume

The top of the invitation which is always made by kids

Rangoli On the another invitation, amazed to see his creativity at age 5

Siddharth loves his school because it has many blocks to make puzzle..

Being in present!!

Today when one boy on the street was begging for money, he was saying something in a tune. I was getting irritated on his constant chase. Then suddenly i felt happy, when i saw Reet smiling on his tune. I was thinking that kids always live in present, he was singing and reet was smiling. Its we as adults attach so much to the present that it is no more a present and in the whole process we forget to enjoy the moment.

We condition our mind with knowledge from past and apply it everywhere. I was remembering that when we are with the friends, read a book, listen to the music or do some activity which we enjoy to do then we are in present. But why on other situations we get attached and invite pain or pleasure. 

Our kids always live in present, we connect our stories to them and make their life tough sometime. We forget that one day they are going to fly their own way and make their own nest. 

Till that time lets live in present and enjoy life with these little ones!! Amen!! 

Reet and Siddharth enjoying with bug...

When you are quiet you can sense upcoming shifts in your life long before the actual shifts. Nothing is surprising, everything is welcome and consciousness keeps rising

All about greeting card!!

I always have a nostalgic feeling in remembering the number of greeting cards i use to get on my birthday, Diwali and new year before my wedding. I use to display my greeting cards on the Trolly of the TV a place where i could always see them and cherish it all the time. The birthday cards were replaced with Diwali cards and then these one with the new year cards. Every year this trend continued for almost six to seven years. 

When Reet and Siddharth got the greeting card on Reet birthday my memories got fresh. The only difference was these all cards are handmade by Reet and Siddharth cousin Shreya and extended family Dev, Siya and Bani. I loved the expression on them, the pictures are beautiful. 

Few cards are very modern, as they are pop up cards. I loved the way all of them has done special efforts for Reet and Siddharth. Although Reet cannot read them now, but i believe when she will grew up she will read this post and see how beautiful her first birthday became after getting these lovely cards from the dear ones. I am sure she will appreciate everyone more than i have done.

From Shreya she made a little Reet

From Siya - Beautifully captured the bday for gifts and ballons

Like the instruction part here- depicts the innocence of a child

Pop Up Card by Dev

For Reet and Siddharth from Dev

From Baani - Loved the way she has written Reet name

I liked the description of Happy Holidays from Dev

From Dyuti - to Siddharth in reaching class 3

Expression of love

Don’t write your name on the sand, waves will wash it away.
Don’t write your name in the sky, wind may blow it away.
Write your name in the hearts of people you come in touch with. That’s where it will stay.

Sports day for Varsha!!

 

Sports day at Siddharth's School happens very year. The day is full with enthusiasm, courage and lots of positive energy around. It demonstrates the physical strength, control over body, coordination and the team spirit by our kids. It is an amazing source of energy where kids participate in different activities like hoopla, skipping, races, yoga, gymnastic, football and basket ball. I was remembering our sports day which was only  race and gymnastic. There will be one PT teacher sitting on a chair and managing the whole show. I don't even remember my parents to coming there to encourage us. Siddharth's school it is done at much larger scale. There are few activities like Race, Football, Baketball, Gymnastic, hoopla where everyone participates. In other like Yoga and skipping they were given a choice. Siddharth was very excited towards skipping. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Race has always been Siddharth's favorite. It was great fun, when i also raced with Siddharth here.

The parents getting ready for basket ball game

Kids waiting for their mementos

In Class after the sports day

Thanks to the technology today, that i get to frame all these moments, so when tomorrow Siddharth and Reet wants to have a look how they performed their sports day. They can read it enjoy it again...

Dora and Reet

I don't remember any of Siddharth's fascination with toys at the age of less than one and half. Whenever i see Reet deeply into some action or reading some book or playing with toys one thought always comes to my mind, she is an old soul. The way she shows attraction toward the Dora book ( gifted from her elder sister Sherya), Siddharth toys and to the song of Om shanti om (brahmakumaris) is simply amazing for a toddler to connect at this age. Yesterday night she woke up in a very disturbed mood and a story from Dora book and a tune of Om shanti Om could put her back to sleep peacefully.

Is it the exposure or the kids of the generation 2012.

Reet Exploring the toys of Bhai

Reading Dora on her own

When the Hanuman will fly

Feasting on the tale of dolphin

I am a reader already

Mama why you are always behind the camera

Mimicking our act of mobile phone

Now not to analyzing it further enjoying these feeling with my toddler, i want to save some of these moment and get them posted here on this post, so that when I am not there in this world. My kids can see this post and relish it more than what I have done during writing it.